Sobriety and Gratitude
The holidays are a good time to look back at the year and think about what makes you grateful. As a substance abuser, it is sometimes hard to be grateful. The world can seem like a bleak place as you learn to deal with unvarnished reality. But being grateful for what you have is vital to your recovery. If we are always complaining about what we do not have, we just feed the beast. And we all know what the beast wants.
There are so many things in life for which we can express our gratitude – large things we forget and small things we gloss over. Sometimes it’s the small things that matter the most. You will have to count those things yourself.
A few of the broader things you could be grateful for include:
A family is usually one of the easiest things for which to be grateful. That’s because they are ordinarily your biggest supporters. Your family wants you to get or stay sober more than anyone else. And they are often more than willing to help you take those necessary steps to put you on the path to sobriety. Your family will always be there no matter what, even when others give up on you. Blood is a very strong bond. It can be broken by addiction, but sobriety can also heal it with time.
Another special part of your support team is your sober friends. This includes those from Anonymous meetings that you’ve befriended, other friends who have decided to get sober, or those that have always been there supporting your sobriety. Keep in mind; you want to be sure to be grateful for the friends who support your sobriety. If there are friends who still use, those are not the friends to be grateful for. Those are the friends who need to find their path before supporting yours.
- Employment or School
Employment or going to school is a tremendous feat for any user or recovering addict. These things make you feel useful and take your mind from using. And a lot of addicts have a hard time keeping a job. This is because a lot of addicts are dually diagnosed with things like depression and PTSD. A lot of addicts end up on disability until they can work again. So being able to maintain a job or go to school is a great thing to be grateful for.
- A Home to Live In
A lot of addicts or recovering addicts sometimes find themselves homeless. So, if you have a home that is a great thing to be grateful for. Even if you live with someone or are in a recovery house. It’s easy to be grateful when you aren’t forced to live with no roof. And recovery houses are a wonderful way to get sober and transition into your home when you’re ready.
- Your Recovery Support Team
No matter what you’re attending at this moment to get or remain sober, it is something to be grateful for. Rehabilitation clinics are going to help you with all the steps to getting sober. Detox centers are going to help with withdrawal symptoms and taking the drug or alcohol out of your system. Recovery houses are there to help you transition back into normal living. Anonymous meetings are going to help you stay sober and help you share your stories with others. As well as hear stories of others road to sobriety. Your sponsor is there to support your sobriety and help keep you sober. Therapy will help with any dual diagnosis and help you uncover what causes you to want to use. Whatever the case, any program that helps you get or stay sober is something to be grateful for.
- Your Sobriety
The most important thing to be grateful for is your sobriety. If you are making any effort to remain sober, that is the best thing to be thankful for. Express gratitude for your efforts, your strength and your resilience. This is not an easy thing to overcome addiction, but you are doing it. And that’s something to be grateful about.
There are many things to be grateful for if you just sit down and think of the little things. Things like clothes on your back, food in your belly, transportation, and any other help. These are a few of those little things. Sit down and think about the things that make you happy and that you are glad to have in your life. It’s easier than you think.
Addiction and the Holidays
As a substance abuser, you might find yourself getting stressed over the holidays. Not knowing what to expect can be quite stressful. You might have family members or friends who want to bring up your addiction. But you should be understanding and know that they most likely just don’t understand. Talking to them about it may even help both you and the family member. You might help them understand, and you may feel more at ease knowing that they know.
Never allow yourself to stress over gifts. As someone with an addiction, you may have lost a job and your family is going to understand that. You are trying to get your life back together, and that takes time. And once you can start gifting again, it will be that much more special.
New Year’s Eve can sometimes be the hardest holiday for addicts who are recovering. Most people are out drinking or having a good time. But don’t allow that to fault your progress. Put on your “sober only” party or hang with friends who don’t use. You could also just invite over a good friend and have a quiet New Year’s Eve. Don’t let the “party spirit” of this holiday make you feel like you should use again.
The holidays are a good time for family, gratitude, and happiness. Don’t allow your addiction to get you stressed over the holidays. Enjoy the moments and take in the beauty of these days. Find the love, the joy, and the cheer. Spend time with those that make you happy. This is the perfect time to relish in your sobriety and be grateful for it. Happy holidays!